The Problem with Subjectivity
No matter how often Jon and I think of each other, or how empathetic and understanding we try to be, we still find ourselves slaves to our own world view. We base reality on our own experiences and beliefs. One time, I went on 3 vacations in a row before Jon had the opportunity to go on one. But somehow I still found it unfair that when he finally caught a break I had to work. Another example is, sometimes I like to stay out quite late with my friends in Germany; while it seems strange to me that Jon might get a little jealous about this, I find myself experiencing the exact same feelings when he informs me that he will be out until 3 a.m. singing karaoke and hanging out with friends . In a long-distance relationship, this is especially complicated. Jealousy and doubt appear regularly in the most unforeseen places. "Why didn’t you tell me, you were going to that event next weekend? It would be nice to know the things you've been planning", he says. "No ...